Why did I start the DIY FemDom Blog?
My FemDom origin story might help establish why you should listen to what I have to say at all. I am by no means claiming to be an expert on femdom by writing this blog. Actually, it is quite the opposite! I have made many blunders in My career of online BDSM practice! Before that, I made plenty of mistakes as an exotic dancer! I will never claim to be perfect or all-knowing. I am sure that there will be mistakes in some of the posts I create for here. But I hope to enhance the life of submissive humans who are questioning themselves. I know it took Me a long time to embrace My most authentic self and learn to love Her.
What I can promise you is that I rarely make the same mistake more than once. I wrote down all of the lessons I have learned over the years. I hope to help others learn from My mistakes, as well as the errors subs have made in My presence. Ideally, I want to be able to help humans evolve into the kinkster that they are and always were. I want to share the wealth of knowledge I have accumulated about Female Domination over the years. I hope to dispel myths and rumors about what it is like to be a Dominatrix as a full-time job. Submissives should know what it means to be a person submitting oneself to an online Domme.
Who is FemDom Goddess Nikki Kit? This is My story.
While I now know that I was always a Dominant person, both inside and outside of the bedroom, I still did not know who I was. Like many of you reading this, I suppressed My fantasies and desires for a multitude of reasons. It took Me until just recently to admit that I am not straight. I am, in fact, mostly gay. The reason I am sharing this deeply personal story with you is that I believe everyone should have the chance to embrace who they are and find happiness by doing so. I was miserable for years before I embraced My natural tendencies. I have a feeling that many of you out there reading this may also be in a similar boat.
I’m writing the blog that I would have loved to find when I started My research trying to discover who I am. Please know that this is all based on My research, experience, experiments, and personal perspective. Also, keep in mind that there is no “one size fits all” to BDSM. Seek out many other resources and views, some of which I will suggest in this blog!
My FemDom Story Begins – Nikki Kit’s Early Days as a Stripper
I started dancing in strip clubs in the summer of 2014 when I was 18 years old. It turned out that with a little practice, I am an excellent dancer, both on and off the pole. Shortly after starting, I was able to work My way up to the top of the charts wherever I worked. I found natural formulas to follow to both manipulate men and give them a fantastic experience. I was one of the best at My craft.
My story Started with powerful FemDom energy on stage in a strip club.
I loved the power I felt and the control I had over the crowd. You could feel it as soon as they darkened the room and announced Me up next. My stage show was always the best of the night. Any patron who knew of Me made sure not to miss the show. Men would wait to get their lapdances with other entertainers if I was going to be on stage soon. I made hundreds on stage alone almost every weekend night. It all seemed effortless to Me because I had perfected the craft over time. Of course, the ease of My success only drew even more patrons to Me.
I had to stop stripping to continue My FemDom story and find Myself.
I had to stop stripping to continue My FemDom story and find Myself.Once I hit the top of the roster and stayed there, I started to get bored and analyze the situation. I noticed that one of the reasons I was unhappy was because My job just wasn’t challenging to Me anymore. I was making the most money out of anybody in the club almost every night. Nobody could even come close to My stage performance or stage tips. I had become somewhat of a local legend due to My mysterious powers. It had become too comfortable. Instead of the challenges I used to see that I could conquer, I only saw the limitations put on Me by the club itself.
I could not climb any higher, there was nothing left to improve My craft, and I knew My time as just an exotic dancer needed to come to a natural end. Once I had what I thought I wanted, I realized it was not what I wanted at all.
After the revelation I had while looking out on the crowd one night, something inside Me awakened. By acknowledging My unprecedented power and boredom with the current climate, I had awoken the Goddess inside. She was not going to let Me ignore Her any longer. I lost My “mojo” if you will, and I voluntarily stepped back and allowed others to climb to the top of the roster while My mind was elsewhere. I stopped trying to be the best stripper because I had already done it, and the joy I felt was fleeting. Sure, I was the “best” at something. But that wasn’t deep down true to Myself and My identity as a person or as a kinkster. To understand Me, I had to continue reading The FemDom story that was being written around Me.
My FemDom story would end with more freedom and happiness. I knew it.
Sure the money was great, I have been in the middle class since I was 18, even while paying My way through college. I made $1,250 – $2500 a week without working too hard or working too many hours. Consistently getting straight A’s in a prestigious college and spent three years on most of a BS in Biology. I was by all standards a self-made success story in the making. But I wanted to meet this Goddess inside, and see what Her plans for Me were because I knew that this was My true self trying to save Me from a life of confusion and pain. I loved biology, but I didn’t want to spend My experience working for someone else. I knew there was more for Me.
How did men influence My FemDom story and transformation?
While working in the strip clubs, I was always bothered by men talking down to Me, trying to grope Me, trying to flirt with Me, or even trying to take Me home with them. Most of these men were harmless and just completely delusional or lost in the fantasy, but some were dangerous and would try to follow Me home or vandalize My car while I was at work because I denied their sexual advances.
I was also always frustrated by the limitations as to what was allowed while working there. There were strict rules all around, which I generally loved because they helped to keep the animalistic men in line. There were also severe limitations for what could happen within the club BDSM wise, or what an entertainer was to do if a customer started violating rules. I much preferred to handle things My way, and quickly. Most of the time, I had already dealt with the situation by the time security got there. Over time, the security guards would try to watch Me closely while I was working for any signs of disrespect so that they could get to the patron and save him from Me.
Plot twist to My FemDom story! It turns out; I’m a lesbian.
I’m not generally sexually attracted to men, and pretending otherwise for a living was disgusting and mentally draining. I find it repulsive when men try to flirt with Me. It makes My blood boil that they think they have a right to have sex with Me simply because I exist in the same location at the same time as them. I lashed out at these men left and right, and disciplined them however I saw fit. I faced many talks at the club about how I was punishing their customers for how they behaved.
Eventually, I started to utterly loathe sharing My pleasure and My naked body with them. Commanding respect was satisfying, and I love making men respect Me. I started to realize how much I wished one of these scummy men would put a toe out of line so that I could discipline them. I enjoyed putting them in their place and forcing them to respect Me or leave My presence. A pattern emerged of men who became even more aroused when they saw this side of Me.
After spending too many years having a client base that didn’t respect Me enough even to pretend as if they did, I had had enough. I couldn’t fake being vanilla or sexually attracted to men for another day, I had to embrace My true self and let her flourish, or I was going to continue down a dark mental path.
Goddess Nikki Kit’s FemDom story includes Vanilla Porn! Seriously!
In January of 2018, after being a stripper for officially four years, My photographer at the time asked Me if I had ever tried a phone app he had heard of where hot girls were making money for streaming live. After that photo shoot, I downloaded the app he had mentioned, and the transition into online sex work had begun.
You see, although I came to be known as a dominant and freaky stripper, the thought of becoming a professional dominatrix never even occurred to Me. I, like many others, had many misguided beliefs about what it meant to be a dominatrix and thought that I wasn’t cut out for it. However, almost like fate, I chose a username for the app that included the title “Princess” in it. I later learned that “Princess” was one of the titles used by dominatrixes, and My natural personality had submissive men flocking to My streaming room. These subs were showering Me with money and adoration. I found Myself craving their submission.
I still didn’t understand that I was a FemDom at this point.
The funny part was, I thought I was a “vanilla” model and was participating in “vanilla” shows that consisted of nudity and masturbation. As time went on, I started to notice that none of My biggest tippers were interested in nudity and left before any “cum shows” started. My bigger spenders either had extremely submissive tendencies or were outright submissive fetishists, I later learned. What makes the situation hilarious is that I still had no idea that I was practicing Female Domination, and I thought I was just a run-of-the-mill vanilla cam girl.
When the app that I was using started to go downhill, I sought out cam sites and started streaming as a vanilla cam model with a new name. This name didn’t include the “Princess” title. I was still dancing at this time, and doing vanilla cam shows almost every night, as well. Because I had not used the dominatrix title on that account, I was attracting a lot more vanilla clients. Then, it dawned on Me. It makes My blood boil when a man tries to tell Me what to do or push My boundaries. When a man tries to “get one over” on Me or thinks he is somehow better than Me, I start to feel venomous. After months of research and questioning My sanity, I realized that I was, at heart, a female supremacist and Female Dominatrix who enjoyed making men bend to My will.
Goddess Nikki Kit Finds Success as a Dominatrix Online
I tend to have a bit of an obsessive personality. Once I have a goal in mind, it is tough to slow down My progression towards that goal. I knew I was a Domme, but I also knew that I understood next to nothing about being a Domme. The fact that I liked the way I felt when controlling men was obvious. However, I knew nothing about the fetishes or people who get involved in kink play. I knew next to nothing about how to produce a clip. Truthfully, I didn’t even know how to use most social media! All I knew was that I wanted to become the best Dominatrix that I could be and live a life of success and riches as a result.
I dedicated Myself to FemDom entirely.
In May 2018, I all but quit My previous full-time job dancing and continued doing vanilla cam shows six nights a week while making it clear that I was FemDom fetish friendly to gain experience. I poured Myself into researching BDSM and learning everything I could about the sex industry. Learning how to run a successful business online was a big part of it. I paid for many educational materials and scoured the internet for reliable information. There is a shelf in My office dedicated to literature on the subjects. I have picked the brains of many Dommes and subs with which I have had the pleasure of crossing paths.
I’m honestly surprised that I made as much as I did since I was coming to hate vanilla men more and more every time I logged on. About 30-40 hours each week, I spent on live cam during the nights. I was able to support Myself on My savings and the income from My cam work for the rest of the year while I learned.
During the day, I spent about 25 hours a week researching Female Domination and taking notes on everything that I learned until the end of the year. I’m digging through many of those notes to write this blog. As I learned about the ins and outs of BDSM and FemDom, I realized how present it was in My entire life, both inside and outside the bedroom. I was in love with My daily discoveries. The more I learned about this dominant side of Me and the lifestyle of the successful dominatrixes, the more I became repulsed by “vanilla” activity of any kind. Vanilla sexuality had no place in My life, My business, or My future.
I am happier now than I ever remember.
It was time for My FemDom story to become My only story. On January 1, 2019, I pulled all nudity and vanilla sexual activity from My content stores and live streams. I proceeded to delete all of My vanilla accounts that I had created and left them behind. Then, I purged the internet of all material that didn’t fit My current brand and target audience. After that, I changed My name and officially adopted the title of Goddess Nikki Kit.
By January 1, 2020, I paid off over $25K in debt and purchased a company as a FemDom. My credit score hovers around 800, and I now work to thrive rather than to survive. I want you to experience the happiness and gratitude that I felt when I started to find success in My chosen career as a dominatrix because I know that there are many slaves out there who are just as lost as I once was. Just as I found complete happiness by embracing My dominant side, you too can find happiness by embracing your submissive side and joining Me on My journey, while I guide you along with yours.
