Are you are considering accepting My Locktober chastity challenge, but find yourself resisting due to potential “problems” that you foresee? In this blog post I hope to address the most common problems with long term chastity that I have encountered in My many years of experience. I am sure you will see the solutions are easier to find than you might think! Or, discover that your “problem” is more of an opportunity than a problem. 😉
Problem: I’m in a relationship and my partner doesn’t like/know about chastity…
Solution: Stop masturbating unless directed to do so by Me. Only engage in sexual activities with your partner if it is THEIR idea to do so and they make the first move. Consider asking your partner if it would be okay with them if YOU did NOT have an orgasm the next time you have sex. Let them know that when men don’t cum during sex, it makes them much more attentive to their partner’s wants and needs. You’d be surprised how well women respond to the IDEA of chastity when you present it without all of the toys and extremely kinky activities. NO WOMAN wants to receive a “kinky things TO DO to me” list from their partner. We want to BE SERVED, not serve you.
Slowly introducing orgasm control can work wonders, I’ve seen it happen DOZENS of times in relationships that eventually transition into an FLR (often without the woman necessarily KNOWING that it’s becoming more of an FLR, but enjoying it all the same). OFTEN practicing chastity on your own outside of the relationship allows the benefits of chastity to effect it.
Does your partner NEED you to ejaculate (sometimes or every time that you have sex) for some strange reason, OR can you not even imagine discussing the idea of NOT cumming during sex? Simply follow along with Locktober outside of your sexual relationship and keep Me informed of all orgasms/sexual activity that was permitted by your partner. The most important part is NO JERKING OFF! Sure, the mental effects will be different than if you do the full 31 days without orgasm, BUT you will learn how to indulge your sexual side with a much more submissive approach.
Problem: I don’t have a dick cage/it doesn’t fit properly
Solution: Practice mental chastity until you can purchase a proper chastity device for yourself. Mental chastity is the same as physical chastity simply without the dick cage. All of the same rules apply, there just isn’t an actual chastity cage on your genitals. Basically, DO NOT touch your genitals without permission unless it’s an emergency or for hygiene purposes (see the Locktober contract).
Problem: I can’t wear a chastity cage 24/7 because of….
Solution: Practice mental chastity whenever you can’t wear the chastity cage. (This may be ALL OF THE TIME if you are unable to wear a dick cage for whatever reason.) Mental chastity is the same as physical chastity simply without the dick cage. All of the same rules apply, there just isn’t an actual chastity cage on your genitals. Basically, DO NOT touch your genitals without permission unless it’s an emergency or for hygiene purposes (see the Locktober contract).
Problem: I go to the gym/work out often, I’m worried about getting hurt.
Solution: Take the chastity cage off before you start your workout, put it back on IMMEDIATELY after you’re done and cleaned up.
Problem: I want to jerk off ALL the time though!
Solution: That’s why you’re doing Locktober, to stop that nonsense.
Problem: People will notice I am wearing a chastity cage… So I can’t do it.
Solution: NO THEY WILL NOT.
Unless you drop your pants and show them your genitals, NOBODY is going to notice that you have a chastity cage on underneath your clothes. Even if they bump into you and FEEL it, they’d assume you just have something in your pocket because 99% of the population has no idea about chastity cages. Also, NOBODY cares as much about your dick as you do. Yes, you will be hyper aware that you have a cage on your dick, but NOBODY else is staring at your crotch wondering what’s going on down there. They may notice something “unusual” if you were in a wet bathing suit, but it’s going to be October, and it shouldn’t be a problem. If it is, take it off, go swimming, then put it back on when you are done swimming.
Problem: I can’t take a video of me cleaning myself and the chastity cage because…
Solution: Take a time stamped photo of your device and lock immediately prior to showering. Take your shower and clean your cage. Then, lock back up as soon as possible and send Me a picture of yourself locked back up with the time on it. There should be no more than 15 minutes where you are outside of your cage for cleaning.
Problem: I can’t wear a chastity cage 24/7 because that’s gross
Solution: As I stated in the chastity contract, you MUST remove the cage 1-2 times per week AT LEAST to completely clean your genitals as well as the cage itself. It is 100% possible to practice long term chastity and remain healthy and hygienic.
