A Journal is Critical for a Sub in Training
Start a Slave Journal as soon as you begin your femdom journey, or as soon as you can. You can use a digital journal if that is what works best for you, but I highly advise taking the time to write your entries by hand as it helps you to process the information. Having a journal is critical to your growth and development as a submissive! It would be best if you tried to make entries every single day whether or not you are actively in a training program or not.
At the very least, each day, you should have an entry stating what you did that day, followed by what you learned that day. You are going to learn and grow so much along your journey to total submission, and you are going to want to remember it! Trust Me on this one. This is so important that it is actually covered in the very first day in the very first week of My Better Beta Bootcamp training program I developed.
Do this before starting your submissive training!
One of your very first entries in your journal should be a list of your kinks and interests on one page, followed by a page of your hard limits. You should then have a separate page composed of your soft limits. CLICK HERE to learn how to identify your soft and hard limits in BDSM. By doing this, you can get a better idea of who you are currently as a submissive as far as kink goes. You will also want to revisit these pages every few months to see if something has changed! You may be surprised at what you discover about yourself along this journey.
Revisiting your limits and revising your lists often is a good idea. Refreshing your journal is an excellent way to get an idea of how much you have changed since the journey began. Make sure you don’t destroy your original records when you make updates, create new ones so that you can see your growth over time.
Without limits, your sub training won’t have structure.
If you are someone who is new or someone who considers themselves to be “limitless,” I advise you to do some more research on BDSM. Every sane person has hard limits, and there is no shame in having a hard limit list a mile long. Having an extremely long list of what you are not interested in doesn’t mean that you are not an excellent submissive at all! Knowing about and identifying your limits makes you a better submissive because it shows you have experience and know yourself well enough to communicate effectively.
Being able to describe what you are not interested in is just as crucial to a session as what you are interested in experiencing. When you are negotiating with a Domme about a potential session, you must paint a clear image of who you are as a submissive for Her to be able to provide an adequate scene.
Submissive training goes smoother when you know your limits!
When you tell a Domme what directions not to go, it allows Her to focus better on the directions you wish to travel in. If you are having a hard time thinking about what your hard limits might be, take some time to read over Mine and compare your interests. It would be best to list out at least ten hard limits with as many kinks as is appropriate. Remember not to judge yourself as you go through this vital process! A submissive should never try to be anybody besides who they are inside already; FemDom can help to draw out that inner submissive and fine-tune him appropriately. You aren’t meant to change who you are as a human, as that would be impossible.
Proper submissive training requires clear goals, kinky, and not!
It would be best if you also listed out your goals for submission at the beginning of your journal. Many subs I have come across are desperately seeking ownership and professional training without knowing what they are looking for in a D/s relationship. It is evident that you are seeking to be dominated by a hot woman. If you are approaching a Domme for a service, it is implied that you are seeking to be dominated. The actions are not what is essential here; the time has come to assess why.
Why do you want to be controlled by a woman? If your only response is that “it’s sexy,” then you need to do some deeper digging into who you are as a human and what your true desires are. You may not be able to figure it out right away; it took Me years to understand My kinky self and where the desires originated. You must consider what your actual goals are when it comes to your submissive training.
What do you desire your sub training to feel like?
Your goal shouldn’t only be to be locked in a chastity cage; it never is. What to hope to feel, emotionally? What do you hope to achieve by locking yourself in chastity? If all you want is a cage on your cock, you wouldn’t be seeking out domination services! You can buy one and wear it without ever telling someone that you are wearing a chastity device. You don’t technically need a woman to lock you up and hold onto the key, but you desire it. Why? Chastity is My favorite training method for submissives, but there has to be something more to the relationship than just a cage and a penis. If that is all that there is to it, then we would both be bored and unsatisfied. You have to have goals that you are working towards to make it enjoyable and satisfying for both parties.
Sub Training can break a masturbation addiction amongst other goals.
Are you trying to break a masturbation addiction? Do you wish to sacrifice your orgasm and pleasure to experience pure submission? Does chastity enhance every other aspect of Female Supremacy for you? Perhaps you are looking for a way to motivate yourself to break bad habits? Or live a better lifestyle as a submissive? I can’t tell you what your reasons are for seeking out female domination. But I can tell you that they may not be what you initially thought they were.
Get to know yourself better during sub training.
Try to get to the root of why you want to engage in certain aspects of FemDom so that you can be appropriately satisfied with your training experiences. If you don’t identify what you are looking for, you will never find it. Identifying these goals early on makes it incredibly easy for a femdom to work with you to help create a training plan to help you reach those goals and even push you to higher ones!
Keeping a record of these thoughts and feelings ensures your needs are met. You will also track your progress as you hit your goals and develop new ones with your Domme.
Keep track of FinDom tributes sent during your submissive training.
Record whether or not you sent tribute to your FemDom every day. If you send cash tributes, record the amount that you sent that day if you did. Many subs find it helpful and rewarding to keep track of how much you have sent your Goddess in total. It can be a lot of fun for both the Domme and the sub. Celebrating significant milestones when it comes to sending cash tributes is fun!
Tracking how much you send can also allow you to see if you are being consistent with your tributes. Consistency is vital for building trust with your Domme. You can also spot signs of financial strain. That way you know when it is time to step back and restore some balance before it becomes harmful.
Sub training requires some financial responsibility.
Remember, a sub should never truly be putting himself in a bad financial situation to be able to send tributes to their superior. If you wind up in debt, that means you will have to stop your training while you repay your debts. However, if you maintain a steady and manageable budget, you will be able to have a FemDom presence in your life for the long term. If you send other forms of tribute, such as a poem, make a note of that as well. Showing your superior that you treasure their presence in your life daily is a must if you wish to build a bond. Learning how to express the utmost gratitude for anything you receive is healing to your spirit and crucial for happiness.
Take notes about your Domme and sub training experience.
While you are getting to know your Domme take note of any new discoveries. You will answer reflective questions in your sub-training journal. Your Domme may ask you to reflect on other topics that are not described in this post. Always respond and take notes in your journal. Take notes on anything you feel is noteworthy. Your Domme will correct your mistakes and teach you how to be the best pet for Her during your training. You are going to want to take notes often so that you don’t forget the valuable lessons that She has taught you.
Sub training is enhanced by consistent meditation.
Always meditate for a minimum of five minutes before writing in your slave journal to ensure that your mind is clear, and your entry comes from your heart. Writing in your journal should become a therapeutic daily exercise for you. Set alarms if you need a reminder that it is time to focus on yourself and your submissive journey for a moment.
Sample Daily Journal Entry for a Sub in Training:
What did I do today?
Did I send tribute? How much?
Did I complete any tasks for My Goddess?
What did I learn today?
What will I do to be a better submissive tomorrow?
